Wednesday, August 27, 2014


As beginning, let me happily announce that this post is sort of an announcement to my incoming post series in this very own blog. Those posts soon to be are gonna talk a lot about my many favorite topics in life.
I've been doing a lot of research lately, I visited so many blogs to look for some idea and to observe what most people talking about in their blog. The relationship and self-help stuff, besides those fashion and beauty related posts, are still the best thing to discuss in almost all my daily read.
I don’t have the ability to write a poetic writing or a beautiful evocative article, and as you probably already realize that all my writing will end up not far from my own experiences and what I feel—yeah, it’s all about me. Not that I’m include into that narcissistic kind of person, not really, but those kind of writing are the field where I feel most comfortable with.
It’s what finally bring me to the decision to make a set of series with one big theme, and the theme will be change at a certain time. I recall how the teenager me enjoy read a self-help book so much, I was obsessed to live an upright life. Still do until today. My most favorite is Richard Carlson’s Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, which I read over and over and over again back then. Since then I have this tremendous interest towards human feeling and how they act based on it, other people struggle and survive story is mesmerizing me in the most intellectual way possible. I also always enjoy—a little too much—and happy to share my experiences with other people, and I've been told that I’m a good listener and adviser too.
My life isn't exactly an open book, but I still love to share some inside stories of that book anyway. With that in mind, starting next month I’ll see you in my theme post… how excited!!

Love, U.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

24 Is a Charm

What do you think about birthday?
Pernah ada masa dimana gue merasa ulang tahun itu nggak lagi penting. Kenapa? Alasan yang sederhana, karena merasa bukan anak kecil lagi dan karena bertambah tua itu ternyata bukanlah sesuatu yang menyenangkan untuk dirayakan. Tapi ternyata gue salah, momen ulang tahun tetaplah selalu spesial… hanya saja dengan cara yang berbeda. Bukan lagi perayaan yang meriah yang diharapkan, bukan juga surprise party dari orang-orang terdekat, dan bukan tentang kado yang didapat.
Ulang tahun terasa penting karena setelah sibuk dengan hidup setahun penuh, di tanggal lahir inilah gue akan teringat akan banyak hal. Kilas balik, perenungan, koreksi diri, dan pencerahan adalah apa yang gue alami di empat ulang tahun kebelakang ini. Klise ya? But it’s true…

Menyenangkan rasanya menerima ucapan ulang tahun dari orang-orang tersayang. Nggak setiap hari kan lo bangun tidur dan menemukan ayah dan adik lo udah duduk manis di meja makan, hugging you and kissing your forehead. Nggak setiap hari juga sahabat-sahabat lo yang biasanya sibuk dengan rutinitas masing-masing, pagi-pagi udah pada ngehubungin lo lengkap dengan serentetan doa dan harapan mereka buat lo, all the best for you kata mereka. Nggak setiap hari juga setelah hari yang panjang lo menemukan sebuah kue ulang tahun dengan lilin 2 dan 4 diatasnya.
My wish ketika meniup lilin-lilin itu? Semoga semua doa dan harapan yang orang-orang kirimkan untuk gue seharian tadi terkabul… amen.

Yes, I am getting older. No, it doesn’t mean I’ll instantly getting wiser.
Tapi manusia tentulah bisa berusaha, and that is exactly what I’m doing… trying to be a better person.

“Happy birthday to you, you're still young.
Age is just a number, don't you stop having fun.
This is your day, your day, happy birthday to you.
This day only comes once every year,
because you're so wonderful with each and everything you do, hey!”
-- NKOTB, Happy Birthday

Monday, August 4, 2014

A Pity Party

So, how’s your holiday? Mine is so-so because, you know, I’m currently in heaven where every day is a holiday—yeah, who the hell am I lying to? No heaven, not at all—but anyway, hoping you all have a better holiday than I am!

Next is… how it feels to get back on your daily schedule after this looong holiday? Is Monday still sucks as always?
I spend my Monday morning peacefully in front of my TV, watching E! and The Style Network since 7am until now… Okay, please don’t judge me, but I really am have this worrying addiction towards these channels. Also don’t get it wrong, you actually can learn A LOT from the programs. Like, what is the best way to braid your hair or how you can wear a pair of white dress in four different styles… not to mention those reality shows—which we all know is nothing reality, since everything are basically scripted—teach us a lot too.
Now, if you are an E! junkie like me, a name Giuliana Rancic must be familiar for you. No, I won’t give a long gossip essay about some Hollywood reporter in this post… this is Retenoire, baby not a Perez Hilton. But yeah… to be honest, I used to dislike this woman. When I said ‘used to dislike’ it is like last night I was still hated on her. Until this morning I watch a rerun of her exclusive interview with the channel and here the old saying prove how right it is again, do NOT judge a book from its cover. Mrs. Rancic is nothing like I imagined at all… I didn’t know she have a master degree on journalism, I didn’t know she met her spouse in such lovely romantic way every women ever dream of, and I didn’t know that she is fighting against a breast cancer.
Her story of life turn out to be really inspiring, an ordinary girl from Italy who survived Hollywood. The point is, her insight about to not losing hope over anything happened, good or bad, is important... and giving up is never an option.

Another thing I vividly remember was when she talked about how lonely she felt at that time, the time when she first diagnosed with the cancer... I think we all can relate to that lonely feeling, don't we?

Now let’s take time off before you continue reading this post, because the questions I’m going to ask you next will take a little more honesty between your heart and your brain.
So, ready?

How often do you feel unhappy?
How often do you envy other people for having a better life than you?
How often do you think the world is crazy and you can’t keep up with things going on outside you?
How often do you pity yourself?
How often do you, after everything, realize over and over again that those things I said above is not even true?

…See, it’s just our mind playing tricks. Life is all about gratitude and perspective.
Let’s said we stuck in a bad traffic jam. We can choose whether to curse and blame everything or we can still be thankful enough because at least we have a car and we have somewhere to go. There is nothing more exhausting than living a life without purpose, no? So let’s say thanks to the mighty Lord that we have somewhere to go, something to do, someone to love, and somehow life to live.
If you ever feeling lost and alone. Please remember, there are billions of other people who get through the same thing as you… some are even worse than you. Of course I’m not suggesting you to not doing anything, in contrary you can do bunch of things and what you gonna do will be the right thing to do.

Pretty sure I make you feel like you read some rhetorical self-help theory… Boy, I used to think so too. But now as me myself getting older, it is all true Sister, every little bit of those chitty-chatty oh how I wish I could realized it a little bit earlier.
But that’s life, right. The process in every step of it is what makes life precious, and of course… worth living.

Love, U.